I am a 48 yr old woman in a relationship with a 20 year old. I look young and am very energetic and young at heart. He has reassured me he is committed and wants to stay with me but I have doubts and sometimes feel self conscious or insecure. Othertimes I feel sure our love and connection will overcome all obstacles. I love being with him...sometimes feel loney i think because of the "gap" in ages. Also, hard to PDA at times...but we can pull it off...Our relationship is a secret to my friends but his friends know. Are secret relationships bad?..why should they be as long as both partners are monogamous.