I listen to you on Loveline and am desperate for your help. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 10 years. In many ways the she’s the perfect partner, except in our sex life, which to be honest I find a little boring. She’s more ‘vanilla’. I am more sexually extreme and into BDSM. I want to start visiting BDSM ‘dungeon’ clubs. I want to confess to my partner who I am, but I am scared of what she will think of me. And if I’m honest, I think I want to leave my girlfriend for a far more exciting BDSM woman (who is Dominant and ‘mean’ which I love!) whom I met online, but I am also scared of what the new relationship would bring. What shall I do?"
Live a little. Dump your lovely but sexually dull girlfriend and go and enjoy a good hard spanking. Is that what you want me to say? If it is, I’m afraid you’re going to be painfully disappointed. I can’t ease your conscience any more than you can, it seems. I know you didn’t write to me so I would judge your sex life...
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