I think that a reason that some men and women are afraid of commitment because they may be decensitized. I say this because when they are children, a minimal amount of affection can cause them to be confused about what it means to be commited. For example, when a friend of mine's parents got devorced a while back, he really didn't care, and I never really noticed any real affection from his parents. P.S. thanks for what you do guys a lot of people have been saved in many ways because of you guys!
Throughout our Life we experience various situations, challenges,influences, ideals, etc. I believe all of these situations shape our understanding and individual points of views.Personally and respectfully i want to share my understanding, that been no matter what relationship we end up in we shape it an construct it to what we want to personally experience, Overall happiness is the target. Because our definition of happiness varies it has the potential to be neglected by the opposite ideals. Most importantly, since a relationship is about two people it requires every challenge and situation to be truly conquered. A challenge can be ignored an continue with your day or it can be taken seriously for the sake of defeating it again when it presents it self. This topis is not about commitment issues but about every individuals ideals, beliefs , determination and commitment to fulfill his or her personal beliefs.
My expression on this topic is but a fragment of my understanding.
I have listened to a few studies done by Dr. John Lund who has done a lot of studies about the psychological differences between men and women. And men's brains are wired to look for an exit. In that they sent 100 men and women into a stadium and a month later the women couldn't remember the layout and the men could say where the exits were, and where the north end of the stadium was. Now translating that into a relationship stand point or even just situational obviously men CAN stay in one marriage or committed to one person but it is sometimes difficult. For instance if a woman in a relationship with a man walks up to said man and says 'I need to talk to you' or 'we need to talk' is going to be less opendly accepted than that same woman walking up and saying 'hey can we talk about ________ (subject), it won't take more than 15 minutes'. y'know without that exit strategy our minds freak out and go automatically into a defensive mode.